• Traveling with Autistic Kids

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    Traveling as a family is a beautiful way to create memories, explore new places, and experience the world together. But when you have an autistic child, the idea of travel can feel overwhelming. Sensory challenges, routine changes, and crowded spaces can all add an extra layer of planning and preparation.

    As travel enthusiasts and parents of two autistic kids, ages 10 and 4, we understand these challenges firsthand. That’s why we created Loving Pieces Books, a project inspired by our journey as parents navigating autism. Through our books, resources, and experiences, we aim to empower families with tools to build confidence, navigate challenges, and embrace the unique strengths of their autistic children.

    We love to travel, but we’ve learned that successful trips require extra planning, flexibility, and patience. Along with Viajando por el mundo Mundial we have made this post, we’ll share some of our best strategies for making travel smoother, plus a FREE downloadable guide packed with practical tips for planning, packing, and handling unexpected situations.

    Keep in mind: Every autistic child is different! Some kids need more preparation than others, and some may not require as many sensory accommodations. This guide is designed for all families—just take the tips that best fit your child’s needs.

    Choose Autism-Friendly Destinations

    Not all travel spots are created equal when it comes to accessibility and sensory accommodations.

    We always choose destinations that align with our kids’ interests and sensory preferences. For example, our children love water, so beach destinations or places with pools work best for us. On the other hand, places with loud noises, bright lights, or unpredictable schedules can be overwhelming.

    Some autism-friendly travel perks to look for include:

    ✔️ Theme Parks with Accessibility Programs – Many offer fast passes, quiet spaces, or sensory-friendly times.
    ✔️ Hotels with Flexible Policies – Some accommodations allow early check-in, fridge access for special dietary needs, or quiet room requests.
    ✔️ Museums & Attractions with Sensory Guides – Check if they provide visual guides or sensory accommodations.

    Plan for Sensory Needs

    Changes in environment, loud noises, and crowds can be overwhelming. Preparing in advance makes all the difference.

    ✔️ Pack Comfort & Sensory Tools – Noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses for bright spaces, weighted blankets, or favorite toys.
    ✔️ Bring Safe Foods – If your child has dietary restrictions, pack their preferred snacks or research restaurants ahead of time. (For us, Guillermo only drinks a specific brand of milk, so we make sure to have it available!)
    ✔️ Create a Calming Space – Even in a hotel room or family member’s house, setting up a quiet retreat with familiar objects can help ease anxiety.

    Prepare with Visual Aids & Social Stories

    Many autistic kids feel more comfortable when they know what to expect.

    We create a travel map for our older son, Adrián, so he can follow along and understand the trip step by step. It makes him feel more in control. You can also:

    ✔️ Use a Visual Schedule – Show images of each part of the trip (packing, airport, hotel, activities).
    ✔️ Watch Videos in Advance – Preview airports, hotels, or attractions online to help familiarize them.
    ✔️ Read Social Stories – These help explain what happens during a flight, road trip, or stay at a new place.

    We usually don’t tell our kids about trips too far in advance to avoid prolonged anxiety, but this varies by child—do what works best for your family!

    Air Travel Tips: What You Need to Know

    Flying can be one of the trickiest parts of traveling with an autistic child, but good preparation makes all the difference.

    ✔️ Research Airline Accommodations – Emirates is the world’s first autism-certified airline! Some airlines allow pre-boarding or special assistance.
    ✔️ Use Airport Assistance Programs – TSA Cares (U.S.), AENA’s Invisible Disability Badge (Spain), and Sunflower Lanyards (Europe) can help families navigate security with less stress.
    ✔️ Pack Distractions & Comfort Items – Fidget toys, downloaded favorite shows, and snacks can help keep your child engaged.
    ✔️ Boarding Strategy – Some kids do better with pre-boarding, while others prefer to board last to minimize waiting time.

    Handling Meltdowns in Uncontrolled Spaces

    Meltdowns happen, and that’s okay! But in spaces where you can’t easily leave—like airplanes, ships, or crowded attractions—it’s important to have a game plan:

    ✔️ Identify “Safe Spots” – Find a quiet corner or rest area in advance.
    ✔️ Bring a Comfort Toolkit – Noise-canceling headphones, chewables, fidget toys, or a weighted lap pad.
    ✔️ Communicate with Staff – Flight attendants, cruise staff, and theme park employees are often willing to help if they’re aware of your child’s needs.

    Staying with Family? Set Expectations in Advance

    Not all relatives will understand autism, and that’s okay. Help them prepare by:

    ✔️ Explaining What to Expect – Let them know if your child has sensory sensitivities, food preferences, or needs quiet time.
    ✔️ Bringing Familiar Items – Favorite blankets, toys, or bedtime routines can help your child adjust to a new environment.
    ✔️ Creating a Safe Space – If the home isn’t autism-friendly, set up a designated quiet area for your child to retreat to when overwhelmed.

    Handling Unexpected Challenges

    No matter how much you plan, unexpected things happen—like bad weather, sudden sickness, or a closed attraction.

    ✔️ Prepare for Flexibility – Teach your child that “sometimes things change, and that’s okay.”
    ✔️ Have Backup Activities – Bring extra entertainment options in case plans need to shift.
    ✔️ Self-Care for Parents – Travel can be exhausting! Take turns with your partner or support system to get small breaks.

    Want More Travel Tips? Download Our Free Guide!

    We know firsthand how overwhelming travel planning can be.

    That’s why we created a FREE Autism Travel Guide with:

    ✔️ A detailed packing checklist
    ✔️ Sensory-friendly travel strategies
    ✔️ Real-life tips for handling meltdowns in new environments

    📩 Download your free guide here: https://mailchi.mp/14d44e0cabd9/mjk0taqwjc

    Traveling with an autistic child is possible and it can even be fun! With the right preparation, you can create wonderful family memories while making sure your child feels safe and supported every step of the way.

    Do you have any travel experiences or tips to share? Drop them in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

    With love,

    Dalisse and Luis

    Lovingpiecesbooks.com

  • 5 Gentle ways to boost your autistic child’s confidence

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    Ever feel like the world expects your autistic child to fit into a mold that just doesn’t work for them? I know I have. As a mom to two amazing autistic boys (ages 4 and 11) and an autistic adult myself, I’ve seen firsthand how confidence isn’t about making our kids “fit in” it’s about helping them feel safe, valued, and celebrated for exactly who they are.

    If you’re reading this, maybe you’re searching for ways to nurture your child’s self-esteem without adding pressure or expecting them to be someone they’re not.

    Trust me, you’re not alone. Confidence for our kiddos doesn’t come from one big leap, it grows from a hundred tiny moments: small choices, gentle encouragement, and the unspoken message that they belong, just as they are.

    Here are five gentle, real-life strategies that have made a difference in our house and might just help in yours, too.

    1. Let them lead (even in the little things)

    So often, decisions are made for our autistic kids, and sometimes out of necessity, just because it’s faster, and in many cases easier for us parents. But giving them agency, even in the tiniest moments, is powerful.

    Let them choose their socks. Decide which book to read at bedtime. Pick the order of their morning routine. These “you decide” moments tell your child, “Your voice matters.” And every time they make a choice, their confidence grows a little more. And sometimes it evens avoid a meltdown!

    Tip: In our Confidence-Boosting Workbook, there’s a page for kids to express their preferences visually, perfect for non-speaking or minimally verbal kids, too. We made this workbook out of our experience with both our kids, we have to be very visual since Guille and Adri learn better this way.

    Grab the free workbook here.

    2. Celebrate effort, not outcome

    It’s so easy to focus on results—did they finish the puzzle, get the answer right, make it through the playdate? But real confidence comes from knowing that trying matters just as much as succeeding.

    Instead of “Good job for getting it right,” try:

    • “You kept going, even when it got tough!”
    • “You asked for help and that’s brave.”
    • “You were nervous, but you gave it a try. I’m so proud of you.”

    This helps your child see that their value isn’t tied to perfection. It’s about persistence, courage, and being themselves.

    3. Create predictable wins

    Confidence loves predictability. When our kids know what to expect, and have a chance to succeed at something meaningful to them, their self-esteem blooms.

    In our home, we create “predictable wins” by:

    • Using visual checklists they can track themselves
    • Giving “quiet hero” awards for self-regulation or kindness
    • Setting up simple routines with positive reinforcement

    Need help creating visual wins? Our workbook has printable routines and reward charts sensory-friendly and easy to use.
    Grab the free workbook here.

    4. Use visual affirmations every day

    For visual learners (like my boys!), seeing positive words every day is so powerful. We stick affirmations on the fridge, bathroom mirror, even have them in our phones. When we repeat them together, it’s a ritual, not a lecture. We always try to make it fun, and not like “homework”

    Some of our favorites:

    • “I can try things in my own way.”
    • “I’m allowed to ask for help.”
    • “My brain is different, and that’s a good thing.”

    Head over to the freebies section in the wed we have some free affirmation cards too 🙂

    5. Model confidence (imperfectly)

    Our kids are always watching us even when we think they’re not. Let them see you try new things, mess up, get nervous, and ask for help. Narrate your feelings out loud: “I feel a little anxious, but I’m going to try anyway.” Show them that confidence isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real, and being kind to yourself along the way.

    Confidence doesn’t grow in silence. It grows every time our kids hear us say, “I believe in you”—and every time we show them how to believe in themselves, with tools that are visual, practical, and emotionally safe.

    If you’re looking for a gentle way to start building that confidence today, download our free Confidence-Boosting Workbook for Autistic Kids. It’s filled with simple exercises, affirmation cards, and visual supports designed to help you and your child grow together.

    And for a deeper dive, I’m so proud to share our beautifully illustrated children’s book:

    Autism: Confidence Starts Here

    Available worldwide on Amazon. This heartwarming story follows Adrián, my oldest son who learns to embrace his unique strengths and build resilience through relatable adventures and affirmations. It’s packed with practical strategies for parents and empowering messages for kids, making it a perfect companion on your family’s journey toward self-acceptance and pride. For children ages 6-12.

    Get your copy of Autism: Confidence Starts Here on Amazon today.

    You’ve got this. And more importantly, so do they.

    With warmth and understanding,
    Dalisse
    Autistic Mom
    lovingpiecesbooks.com

  • Our story of hope and perseverance.

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    Hello parents,

    Raising our two incredible boys, Adrián and Guillermo, has been a journey filled with twists and turns, challenges, and triumphs. Some days, I wake up feeling overwhelmed, wanting nothing more than to stay in bed and let the world spin on without me. On those days, the weight of parenthood feels heavier—the uncertainty of what the day will bring, the struggles, the meltdowns. But then I see them: Adrián’s smile lighting up the room, Guillermo’s infectious laughter. And something inside me shifts. Their happiness, their progress, and the little victories remind me why we keep moving forward.

    Love is everything.

    Luis and I have learned to take one day at a time. With two boys on the autism spectrum, no two days are the same. Some days are filled with breakthroughs, while others come with moments where we feel lost or uncertain. But every day, we face it together as a family, united by love and the deep bond we share.

    Adrián and Guillermo have very different personalities. Adrián is curious, thoughtful, and loves to explore the world through his own unique lens. Guillermo is energetic, playful, deeply musical, and full of life. These two little souls have taught us more than we ever imagined about patience, unconditional love, and what it means to truly open your heart and mind to new perspectives.

    In the beginning, we were scared. Scared of what the future might hold, scared of the unknown. But as time has passed, we’ve grown stronger. We’ve discovered a strength we didn’t know we had and a love so deep it transcends any challenges we face. We’ve learned to let go of expectations and to embrace the beauty of their uniqueness.

    Our journey with Adrián and Guillermo has shown us that life isn’t about comparing them to others or wishing things were different. It’s about celebrating their victories, no matter how small, and finding joy in the moments where they thrive. Watching them flourish, watching them be happy and healthy, has been the greatest reward.

    There are still days when I feel overwhelmed, when the tears flow, and when I question if I’m doing enough as a parent. But I know that Luis and I are doing the best we can. Together, we are stronger. And with our boys by our side, we face each day with courage, knowing that no matter what, we are giving them all the love and support they need to be the best versions of themselves.

    Adrián and Guillermo came into our lives to teach us something important—that love isn’t about perfection. It’s about embracing the journey, with all its ups and downs, and appreciating the beautiful moments of growth, connection, and happiness along the way.

    So here we are, taking one day at a time, cherishing every milestone, and learning to live in the present. We’re grateful for the lessons our boys have taught us and for the way they continue to inspire us every single day. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. And together, as a family, we will keep moving forward, stronger and more united than ever.

    With love and understanding,
    Dalisse

    Loving Pieces Books

  • Embracing Their Way: Supporting Social Skills Without Pressure

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    As parents, we all want to see our children thrive socially—to feel comfortable, connected, and confident in their interactions. But for parents of autistic children, this journey often comes with a unique challenge: how do we support their social development without pressuring them to “fit in”?

    We’ve been there. As parents of Adrián and Guillermo, we’ve felt the tug between wanting to help them navigate social settings and the fear of pushing them into situations that don’t feel right for them. Over time, we’ve learned that the key isn’t about changing who they are—it’s about creating spaces where they feel safe, accepted, and free to socialize in their own way.

    Because here’s the truth: autistic children don’t need to “fit in” to thrive. They need to feel comfortable being themselves. And when we let go of the pressure to conform, we open the door to genuine connections and long-term well-being.

    Why Acceptance Matters

    When we focus too much on “fixing” or “improving” social skills, we risk sending the message that their natural way of interacting isn’t good enough. This can lead to masking—where children learn to hide their true selves to meet social expectations. While masking might seem helpful in the short term, it can have serious consequences as they grow older, including burnout, anxiety, and a loss of self-identity.

    Instead, our goal should be to help them feel comfortable and confident in social settings—not to change how they socialize, but to support them in expressing themselves authentically.

    Tools for Comfort, Not Conformity

    Here are some strategies that have helped us create a supportive environment for Adrián and Guillermo—one that prioritizes their comfort and celebrates their unique way of socializing:

    1. Social Stories for Understanding, Not Pressure

    Social stories are a wonderful tool for helping autistic children understand social situations without feeling pressured to perform. These visual narratives explain what to expect in a way that’s clear and predictable, reducing anxiety and helping them feel prepared.

    For example, instead of teaching them to “make eye contact because it’s polite,” we use social stories to explain why people might look at each other during conversations—and let them decide what feels comfortable for them.

    2. Role-Playing as Exploration, Not Practice

    Role-playing can be a great way to explore social interactions in a low-pressure way. Instead of “practicing” to get it “right,” we use role-playing to help Adrián and Guillermo experiment with different ways of communicating and connecting.

    The goal isn’t to mimic neurotypical behavior—it’s to help them find their own voice and style.

    3. Positive Reinforcement for Effort, Not Outcomes

    We celebrate their efforts, not the results. Whether it’s saying “hello” in their own way or simply being present in a social setting, we focus on what feels right for them. This helps build confidence without the pressure to meet external expectations.

    4. Playdates with Flexibility, Not Structure

    While structured playdates can be helpful, we’ve found that flexibility is key. Instead of planning every moment, we let Adrián and Guillermo take the lead. If they want to play side by side instead of together, that’s okay. If they need a break, that’s okay too.

    The goal is to create a space where they feel safe to interact—or not—on their own terms.

    5. Safe Spaces for Regulation, Not Withdrawal

    Social settings can be overwhelming, and that’s okay. We’ve created safe spaces where our boys can retreat if they feel overstimulated. These aren’t places to hide—they’re spaces to regroup and recharge so they can return to the interaction when they’re ready.

    6. Patience and Compassion, Not Expectations

    Social development isn’t a race, and there’s no “right” way to do it. We’ve learned to let go of timelines and expectations, focusing instead on their comfort and happiness. Some days, progress looks like a big smile during a conversation. Other days, it’s simply showing up.

    Both are worth celebrating.

    7. Embracing Their Unique Way of Socializing

    One of the most important lessons we’ve learned is to embrace their unique way of connecting with the world. Adrián might express joy by flapping his hands, while Guillermo might connect through music rather than words. These aren’t behaviors to “fix”—they’re beautiful expressions of who they are.

    When we let go of the idea that there’s only one “right” way to socialize, we create space for them to shine in their own way.

    Journey of Acceptance and Growth

    Supporting our children’s social development isn’t about teaching them to “fit in.” It’s about helping them feel comfortable, confident, and accepted for who they are. It’s about creating environments where they can thrive—not by masking their true selves, but by embracing their unique way of being.

    As parents, we have the power to show them that they don’t need to change to be loved and accepted. And when we let go of the pressure to conform, we give them the greatest gift of all: the freedom to be themselves.

    Remember, you’re not alone in this. Together, we can create a world where our children feel seen, valued, and celebrated—exactly as they are.

    With love and understanding,
    Dalisse

    Loving Pieces Books

  • Practical strategies to ease social challenges.

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    Hi everyone!

    Hi everyone!

    I’m Dalisse, a proud mom of two incredible boys, Adrián (10) and Guillermo (4), who are both autistic. If you’re a parent of an autistic child, you know how social gatherings can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—both for our kids and for us. We want them to have fun, make friends, and feel included, but the sensory overload and social complexities can be overwhelming. It’s not just about picking the right gift or outfit; it’s about preparing for the entire event, from the moment the invitation arrives to the ride back home.

    The Parent’s Perspective: The “What-ifs”

    As parents, it’s natural to worry. We’ve all been there, asking ourselves:

    • Will they feel overwhelmed by the noise and crowds?
    • Will they understand the social cues or follow the rules of group games?
    • Will they make friends and have fun, or will they feel left out?

    These “what-ifs” can be stressful, but here’s the thing: every autistic child is unique. What works for one may not work for another. The key is preparation, patience, and finding what works best for your child.

    The Child’s Perspective: The Anxiety

    For many autistic children, social gatherings can bring a mix of excitement and anxiety. They might worry about:

    • Sensory overload: Loud noises, bright lights, unfamiliar smells, or even the texture of party food.
    • Social expectations: Understanding unspoken rules, like taking turns or reading facial expressions.
    • Unpredictability: Not knowing what will happen next or how long the event will last.

    As parents, it’s our job to help them navigate these challenges while celebrating their unique way of experiencing the world.

    Tips for Supporting Your Child at Social Gatherings

    Over the years, we’ve learned a lot about helping Adrián and Guillermo feel more comfortable and confident at social events. Here are some strategies that have worked for us:

    1. Plan Ahead
      • Talk to your child about the event beforehand. Use a visual schedule with pictures or drawings to show what will happen (e.g., arrival, games, cake, goodbye).
      • If possible, visit the venue ahead of time to help your child get familiar with the space.
    2. Create a Sensory-Friendly Environment
      • Pack a “sensory kit” with noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses, or a favorite toy.
      • Let the host know about your child’s needs, and ask if there’s a quiet space where they can take a break if things get overwhelming.
    3. Practice Social Skills
      • Role-play social scenarios at home, like greeting friends, taking turns, or asking to join a game.
      • Use social stories or books (like Party Time for Adrián) to help your child understand what to expect.
    4. Celebrate Small Victories
      • Focus on progress, not perfection. Did your child say hello to one person? Did they stay for 15 minutes longer than last time? Celebrate those wins!
    5. Consider Social Skills Groups
      • If your child struggles with social interactions, a social skills group can provide a safe and supportive environment to practice.

    Our Story: Party Time for Adrián

    I’ll never forget Adrián’s first birthday party invitation. I was a bundle of nerves. Would he handle the noise? Would he join the games? Would he feel included?

    We spent weeks preparing. We talked about the party, practiced social skills, and even created a visual schedule. When the day came, Adrián surprised everyone—including me—by making a new friend and joining in the fun. It wasn’t perfect, but it was progress, and that’s what mattered most.

    That experience inspired me to write Party Time for Adrián: Making Friends One by One. This heartwarming story follows Adrián as he navigates a birthday party with the help of his friends, supportive family, and a few key social strategies. It’s a resource for parents, caregivers, and educators who want to help autistic children feel prepared and confident in social situations.

    My New Book: Party Time for Adrián!

    Cover of 'Party Time for Adrián: Making Friends One by One', a children's book about social skills and friendship for kids with autism.

    You’re Not Alone

    Raising autistic children comes with its own set of challenges, but it’s also an incredibly rewarding journey. Social gatherings might feel daunting at first, but with the right tools and support, our kids can thrive.

    Let’s Connect!

    What strategies have worked for your child at social events? Share your tips in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!

    Together, we can create a more inclusive and supportive world where our autistic children can shine.

    With hope and joy,

    Dalisse – Loving Pieces Books