Autism

  • Understanding Meltdowns: Embracing the Moment and Building Supportive Responses

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    The Grocery Store Meltdown That Changed Everything

    I’ll never forget the day I truly understood what a meltdown felt like for Adrián.

    We were at the grocery store, just a quick trip to grab dinner ingredients. Within minutes, my then-three-year-old son was on the floor, hands over his ears, tears streaming down his face. People stared. Someone whispered “tantrum.” An older woman shook her head disapprovingly.

    But Luis and I knew better. This wasn’t defiance. This wasn’t manipulation. This was our son’s nervous system screaming, “I can’t handle this anymore.”

    That moment, sitting on that grocery store floor with Adri while strangers judged us, became a turning point. Not because we magically figured everything out that day, but because we finally stopped asking “Why is he doing this?” and started asking “What is he experiencing?”

    If you’re reading this because your child has meltdowns and you feel lost, overwhelmed, or misunderstood, I see you. And I want you to know: understanding changes everything.

    Recognizing Autistic Meltdowns

    What Actually Happens During a Meltdown

    Thankfully we always have our therapists who help us along the way. Here’s what my therapist told me years ago: meltdowns aren’t behavioral problems. They’re neurological responses to overwhelm.

    Think about the last time you were completely overwhelmed, maybe during a stressful work deadline, or when too many things went wrong at once. Remember that feeling of your brain just… shutting down? Of being unable to think clearly or control your emotions?

    Now multiply that by ten. Add sensory input that feels physically painful. Remove the adult coping mechanisms you’ve built over decades. That’s closer to what an autistic meltdown feels like. And at the time Adrián was non-verbal so he couldn’t tell me with words what was going on.

    The Science (In Plain Language)

    When an autistic child experiences sensory overload, emotional distress, or too much cognitive demand, their nervous system goes into fight-flight-freeze mode. The logical, thinking part of their brain essentially goes offline. They’re not choosing to have a meltdown they’ve been pushed past their capacity to cope.

    Research shows that around 40% of autistic individuals experience meltdowns regularly. But here’s what the research doesn’t always capture: the shame autistic kids carry afterward, the exhaustion parents feel, the isolation of being judged by people who just don’t understand.

    Meltdowns vs. Tantrums: Why the Difference Matters

    I can’t count how many times someone has told me, “You just need to be firmer with him. Don’t give in to tantrums.”

    And every time, I’ve had to take a deep breath and explain: This isn’t a tantrum.

    Here’s the difference:

    Tantrums are about getting something. They:

    • Have a clear goal (I want that toy, I don’t want to leave)

    • Stop when the child gets what they want or loses interest

    • Are somewhat within the child’s control

    • Respond to consequences or ignoring

    Meltdowns are about being completely overwhelmed. They:

    • Have no goal, the child isn’t trying to get anything

    • Continue even after getting what they “wanted”

    • Are NOT within the child’s control

    • Get worse if you try to ignore or punish them

    When Adrián or Guillermo has a meltdown, he’s not trying to manipulate us. His nervous system has hit overload, and he needs support to regulate, not discipline.

    Understanding this difference literally transformed how Luis and I respond. Instead of feeling like we were “giving in,” we realized we were providing the support our son desperately needed. And when Guillermo started experiencing his meltdowns since we already had the knowledge and experience with Adrián this helped us as parents help him. Im not saying its easy no, but it surely helps to know what a meltdown is.

    What Triggers Meltdowns (And Why They’re Different for Everyone)

    After years of keeping mental notes (and eventually a journal), we started recognizing Adri’s patterns, and later on with Guillermo. Your child’s triggers might be different, but here are the most common ones we’ve learned from our family and our community:

    Sensory Overload

    This was Adri’s biggest trigger. The grocery store that day? The fluorescent lights were buzzing, the refrigerators hummed constantly, there were at least five different smells competing for attention, and a toddler was screaming three aisles over.

    For Adri, it all added up until his sensory cup overflowed.

    Other common sensory triggers:

    • Certain textures (clothing tags, sticky hands, unexpected touch)

    • Loud or unpredictable noises

    • Strong smells

    • Bright or flickering lights

    • Crowded spaces

    Changes in Routine

    Autistic children often thrive on predictability because it helps them feel safe. When routines change unexpectedly, even small changes, it can trigger anxiety that builds into a meltdown.

    For Guille, this is huge. If we take a different route home from school without warning him, he becomes visibly distressed.

    Communication Frustration

    Imagine knowing exactly what you need but being unable to express it. Or worse, expressing it repeatedly and no one understanding you.

    This frustration builds and builds until it explodes into a meltdown.

    Emotional Overwhelm

    Autistic children often experience emotions more intensely than neurotypical peers. When emotions get too big even positive ones like excitement, they can trigger a meltdown.

    Hidden Triggers

    Sometimes the meltdown happens after the overwhelming experience. Adri might hold it together all day at school, only to completely fall apart the moment he gets home.

    That’s not about home being a bad place, it’s about home being the safe place where he can finally release all that built-up stress.

    What We’ve Learned About Responding (The Hard Way)

    I’m not going to pretend we handled every meltdown perfectly. We made mistakes. Lots of them. But here’s what Luis and I have learned works:

    During the Meltdown

    Priority one: Safety. Make sure your child can’t hurt themselves or others. Move sharp objects, block stairs, stay close enough to intervene if needed.

    Lower the sensory input. If possible:

    • Dim the lights or move to a darker space

    • Reduce noise (turn off music, close windows, speak softly or not at all)

    • Remove crowds if you can

    • Offer noise-canceling headphones or a weighted blanket

    Give space, but stay present. Some kids need physical comfort during meltdowns; others need you nearby but not touching them. Learn what your child needs, and respect it.

    Don’t talk too much. When Adri’s in a meltdown, my instinct is to explain, reassure, problem-solve. But his brain can’t process language when he’s overwhelmed. Short, simple phrases work better: “You’re safe.” “I’m here.” “Take your time.”

    Remember: This will pass. In the moment, meltdowns feel endless. But they do end. Your job isn’t to stop it, it’s to help your child feel safe while their nervous system resets.

    What We Wish We’d Known Sooner: Prevention Strategies

    Here’s the truth: you can’t prevent all meltdowns. But you can often reduce their frequency and intensity.

    Know Your Child’s Early Warning Signs

    Before a full meltdown, there are usually signs that your child is getting overwhelmed:

    • Increased stimming

    • Becoming quieter or more withdrawn

    • Getting sillier or more hyperactive

    • Covering ears or eyes

    • Saying “I’m fine” repeatedly when they’re clearly not

    Learn these signs, and you can sometimes intervene before they hit full overload.

    Build in Sensory Breaks

    We used to push through activities, thinking we needed to help Adri “get used to” overwhelming environments.

    Big mistake.

    Now we build in regular breaks. Even just five minutes in a quiet space can help reset his sensory system before it hits overload.

    Use Visual Supports

    Visual schedules help both our boys know what’s coming next. Fewer surprises = less anxiety = fewer meltdowns.

    We also use a “feelings thermometer” where Adri can point to show how close he is to overwhelm, even when he doesn’t have the words.

    Teach Regulation Skills (When They’re Calm)

    You can’t teach coping strategies in the middle of a meltdown. But during calm times, you can practice:

    • Deep breathing exercises

    • Using a calm-down corner

    • Asking for breaks

    • Identifying feelings before they get too big

    Our book Autism: Calming the Chaos actually walks kids through these strategies in a way they can understand and practice. Adri reads it regularly, and it’s helped him recognize his own warning signs.

    Create a “Yes Space”

    Every child needs a place where they can completely let go and be themselves. For Adri, it’s his room with dim lighting, his weighted blanket, and his favorite sensory toys.

    When he feels overwhelmed, he knows he can retreat there. No questions, no shame… just safety.

    What This Journey Has Taught Us

    That day on the grocery store floor, I felt like the worst parent in the world. I was convinced everyone thought my child was “out of control” and that I’d failed as a mother.

    Now? I see that moment differently.

    That wasn’t failure. That was me learning to see the world through my son’s eyes. That was the beginning of understanding that love sometimes looks like sitting on a dirty grocery store floor, blocking your child from strangers’ stares, and just being present while his nervous system finds its way back to calm.

    Meltdowns aren’t bad behavior. They’re communication.

    They’re your child’s nervous system saying, “I’ve hit my limit. I need help.”

    And once you understand that … once you stop seeing meltdowns as something to punish or prevent at all costs, and start seeing them as information … everything changes.

    You stop feeling like you’re fighting your child, and you start feeling like you’re supporting them.

    You stop worrying so much about what other people think, and you start trusting your own understanding of what your child needs.

    You stop feeling guilty for not “fixing” them, and you start celebrating the tiny victories: the meltdown that was five minutes shorter, the time they used their words before completely melting down, the day they recovered faster because you knew exactly what they needed.

    Resources for Your Journey

    Understanding meltdowns is just the beginning. If you’re looking for more support, here’s what has genuinely helped our family:

    📚 Autism: Calming the Chaos – This is the book Luis and I wrote specifically to help kids understand what’s happening in their bodies before, during, and after meltdowns. It includes strategies that Adri himself uses, told through his character’s experiences.

    📚 Autism: Confidence Starts Here – Because building self-esteem can actually reduce meltdowns. When kids feel confident in who they are, they’re less likely to become overwhelmed by social situations or self-doubt.

    And we’ve created FREE downloadable resources including:

    • Meltdowns & Autism: A Parent’s Guide to Calming the Chaos

    • Visual supports for identifying feelings

    • Printable calm-down strategies cards

    You’re not alone in this. Every parent in our community has sat on a metaphorical (or literal) grocery store floor at some point.

    What matters isn’t that meltdowns happen… they’re going to happen. What matters is that when they do, your child knows you’re there, you understand, and you’re not going anywhere.

    That’s not just parenting. That’s love.

    With understanding and solidarity,
    Dalisse (& Luis)
    Loving Pieces Books

    💙 Has your understanding of meltdowns shifted over time? What’s been your biggest “aha” moment? Share with our community—we’re all learning together. Find us on Instagram @lovingpiecesbooks or explore more resources at lovingpiecesbooks.com.

  • The Transformative Power of Authentic Autism Representation in Children’s Literature

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    The Book That Made My Friend’s Daughter Cry (In the Best Way)

    Last month, my friend Zara texted me a photo that stopped me in my tracks.

    It was her nine-year-old autistic daughter, Maria, clutching one of our books to her chest with tears streaming down her face. Before I could panic, Zara’s next message came through:

    “She just finished reading Autism: Calming the Chaos and noticed Adrián stims like she does. She looked up at me and said, ‘Mama, he’s like me. I’m not the only one.'”

    I immediately showed Luis the text, and we both just sat there with our own eyes getting misty, because we knew exactly what that moment meant.

    For the first time, Maria had seen herself, truly seen herself, in a story. And it changed something fundamental in how she saw herself in the world.

    This is why authentic autism representation in children’s literature matters so much. It’s not about political correctness or checking boxes. It’s about kids like Maria, like our son Adri and Guille, finally finding themselves on the page and realizing they’re not alone.

    The Invisible Message We Send

    Here’s something I’ve learned from connecting with families in our community: when children never see themselves reflected in the stories they read, they internalize a quiet message.

    “My experience doesn’t matter.”
    “I’m too different to be a main character.”
    “My story isn’t worth telling.”

    And listen, I know that sounds dramatic. But think about it from a child’s perspective. Every book they encounter has characters who make eye contact easily, who don’t get overwhelmed by loud noises, who naturally understand social cues, who never need to stim or retreat to decompress.

    What does that tell an autistic child about their place in the world?

    One mom, while we were chatting in the therapy waiting room for our kids, long before Luis and I even started to write our series… told me her son once asked, “Why are there no kids like me in stories?”

    She didn’t have a good answer that day.

    But it lit a fire in me. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I went home and told Luis, and we started searching desperately for books that included kids like her son, like Adri, like so many children we knew who deserved to see themselves as heroes in stories.

    That conversation changed everything for us. It became the seed that eventually grew into Loving Pieces Books.

    When Stories Become Mirrors

    There’s this concept in children’s literature about books being “mirrors and windows” and I think it’s one of the most beautiful ways to understand why representation matters.

    When children read about characters who share similar experiences, they learn to see the world through different eyes. For autistic children, this means finding characters who think, feel, and interact like they do. These stories help them feel less alone and more understood.

    When neurotypical peers read these tales, they start to grasp the unique perspectives of their autistic friends. This empathy doesn’t just benefit autistic children, it enriches the entire classroom environment, the entire family dynamic, the entire world.

    Most people think stories are just entertainment, but they are tools for building empathy and understanding.

    Mirrors: Seeing Yourself Reflected

    For autistic children, finding a character who thinks, processes, and experiences the world like they do is profound.

    I’ve heard from parents reading our books whose kids:

    Finally had language to explain their sensory experiences because Adrián, the main character in our books, described it first

    Felt less “weird” about needing alone time after seeing their favorite character do the same

    Gained confidence in their stimming behaviors after reading about characters who stim proudly

    Understood that meltdowns don’t make them “bad” when they read about characters navigating big feelings

    These aren’t small things. This is identity formation. This is self-acceptance. This is a child learning that their neurotype doesn’t make them less worthy of being a protagonist in their own life.

    That’s what the characters in our books, Adrián and Guillermo,do. They show kids that being autistic is just one part of who they are, not something to hide or fix.

    Windows: Building Understanding

    But here’s what’s equally important, the books we’re creating with our series are windows for everyone else.

    When neurotypical kids read about autistic characters, they:

    Learn that different doesn’t mean wrong
    Develop empathy for experiences unlike their own
    Become better friends, classmates, and future colleagues
    Challenge their own assumptions about what “normal” means

    I remember talking to one of Adrián’s friends from school after I’d given her a copy of our book. She came up to Adri and asked, “Oh! Is that why you wear headphones sometimes? That makes so much sense now.”

    That simple moment of understanding, facilitated by a story that Luis and I created together, helped bridge connections. It built inclusive friendship and educated about autism without it feeling like a lesson.

    It’s important not only to incorporate these books at home but also in education. Teachers who use diverse stories like these give students tools to appreciate differences. They help autistic children feel included in classroom discussions.

    From what we know, inclusive education benefits everyone, it breaks down barriers and fosters a more understanding community. By embracing these stories, schools aren’t just teaching literacy; they’re teaching acceptance and empathy, setting the stage for a more inclusive world.

    What “Authentic” Actually Means

    Okay, so we know representation matters. But not all representation is created equal.

    I’ve seen well-meaning books that technically include autistic characters but miss the mark entirely. You know the ones, where autism is either the character’s entire personality or just a quirky trait that’s magically “overcome” by the end.

    Authentic representation means, and this is what Luis and I tried to include visually in our children’s books:

    ✓ Autistic characters (Adrián and Guillermo) who are fully realized people with interests, friendships, conflicts, and growth, not just walking stereotypes

    ✓ Stories that show diverse autism experiences based on our real life, because autism is a spectrum, and one character can’t represent everyone. So we try to focus on what we actually experience ourselves with our boys.

    ✓ Books that respect autistic traits rather than framing them as problems to be fixed

    ✓ Stories written or informed by actually autistic people, me, the late-diagnosed autistic mother of two autistic kids, and my husband Luis, who is our biggest support and our rock! Together, we understand the lived experience of autism from the inside.

    Here’s the thing, and I learned this from my own experience as a late-diagnosed autistic mom, and from listening to autistic adults in our community, autistic people are the experts on autism. When we center our voices in the stories we share, we get closer to truth.

    The Books That Changed Our Perspective

    Can I share some real talk? When Luis and I first started thinking about autism books for our kids, I thought any book that mentioned autism was helpful.

    I was wrong.

    I’m not saying all of them are bad, there are wonderful books out there that do help. But some of the most popular “autism books” were actually pretty harmful. They portrayed autism as a tragedy, focused entirely on how hard it was for other people to deal with, or suggested that with enough therapy, autistic kids could become “normal.”

    Yikes.

    So I started listening, really listening, to autistic adults and parents of autistic kids who had already walked this path before us. Luis and I paid attention to which stories made kids like Maria feel seen versus which ones made them feel like something to be fixed.

    The difference is everything.

    What Our Books Teach

    Of course, as the creators of Loving Pieces Books, our series holds a special place in our hearts. But we didn’t just write books, Luis and I poured our family’s lived experience into every page.

    📚 Autism: Calming the Chaos follows Adrián as he navigates sensory overwhelm and learns strategies to find calm. This book was born directly from watching our Adri develop his own tools for managing meltdowns. It shows kids that having big feelings is okay, and that there are ways to help yourself feel better. Each Book talks about different Social Emotional Learning.

    📚 Autism: Confidence Starts Here

    📚 Autism: My Invisible Backpack

    📚 Autism: A New School Year

    📚 Autism: This is How I party

    Each book in our series features our boys’ real experiences, hand- drawn illustrated beautifully to show stimming, sensory accommodations, and authentic autistic joy, not just challenges.

    While we’re passionate about our own series, we’ve also found other books that beautifully represent autistic experiences, books that don’t just help autistic kids. They help siblings understand their brother or sister better. They give parents language to talk about neurodiversity. They transform classrooms into more accepting spaces.

    Stories as Mirrors and Windows

    For me and my autistic children, seeing ourselves in stories is crucial. These books act as mirrors, reflecting our daily experiences and validating our feelings. This validation is a powerful tool for building self-esteem and confidence.

    On the flip side, these stories are windows for neurotypical children and adults, offering a glimpse into the lives of their autistic peers. This dual role fosters mutual respect and understanding, crucial for reducing stigma and promoting inclusion.

    Luis often says that writing these books changed him too. As a neurotypical dad, creating these stories helped him understand our boys on an even deeper level. He could see through their eyes in a new way.

    What I’m Learning from Our Community

    One of the best parts of building Loving Pieces Books has been connecting with other parents, educators, and autistic advocates who are on this journey too.

    This community has taught me so much, way more than I could ever teach anyone else.

    Like the mom who shared how her autistic son finally explained his sensory sensitivities to his grandparents using examples from a book character. Or the teacher who told me about a student who found the courage to advocate for herself after reading about Adri in our books, who did the same.

    Or the autistic adult who messaged me saying, “I wish I’d had these books as a kid. It would have saved me years of thinking something was wrong with me.”

    These stories fuel our passion for this work.

    Because every time someone shares how a book created understanding, built a bridge, or helped a child feel less alone, Luis and I are reminded why authentic representation isn’t just nice to have. It’s essential.

    For the Educators Reading This

    If you’re a teacher wondering how to make your classroom library more inclusive, I see you. And I want you to know that what you’re doing matters enormously.

    Here’s what I’ve learned from educators in our community who are doing this well:

    Start with one book. You don’t need to overhaul your entire library overnight. Pick one authentic autism-inclusive story and use it as a read-aloud. Notice what conversations it opens up.

    Create space for discussion. After reading, ask questions like “How might someone experience the world differently than you?” or “What do you think this character needs from their friends?”

    Follow the child’s lead. Some autistic students might want to share their own experiences; others might prefer to listen. Both are okay.

    Use these stories year-round. Autism representation shouldn’t be reserved for Autism Awareness Month. Make it a regular part of your curriculum.

    Connect with autistic voices. Follow actually autistic educators and advocates. They’ll guide you toward the most helpful, authentic resources.

    One teacher told me she keeps a basket of autism-inclusive books, including our Loving Pieces series, in her classroom’s calm corner. Kids can read them anytime, and both her autistic and neurotypical students gravitate toward them. She said it’s created a culture of understanding she never could have achieved through a one-time lesson.

    The Ripple Effect

    Sometimes I think about Maria, the little girl from the beginning of this post, and how one book created such a profound shift in how she saw herself.

    But then I think about all the other kids in her class who read that same book.

    They learned that their autistic classmate’s way of being in the world is valid. They developed empathy. They became better humans.

    This is how we change the world, one story at a time.

    When we fill our homes, classrooms, and libraries with books that authentically represent autistic experiences, we’re not just helping autistic children feel seen. We’re teaching the next generation that neurodiversity is part of the beautiful tapestry of human experience.

    We’re raising kids who will grow up to be more understanding coworkers, more empathetic partners, more inclusive leaders.

    That starts with the stories we choose to tell, and the voices we choose to amplify.

    Every child deserves to see themselves as the main character of a story. Every child deserves to know their experience matters, their perspective is valuable, and their way of being in the world is worthy of celebration.

    Our book series, Loving Pieces Books, matters. The stories we tell matter. The voices we amplify matter.

    Let’s make sure the next generation of children, autistic and neurotypical alike, grows up in a world where everyone’s story is honored.

    Your Next Step

    If you’re feeling inspired to bring more autism-inclusive stories into your home or classroom, I’ve curated our complete series along with other beloved books from our community:

    Our Loving Pieces Books Series:

    📚 Autism: Calming the Chaos

    📚 Autism: Confidence Starts Here

    📚 Autism: My Invisible Backpack

    📚 Autism: A New School Year

    📚 Autism: This is How I party

    And I’ve created a FREE downloadable resource guide with even more book recommendations, discussion questions, and tips for using these stories to build understanding, whether you’re a parent, teacher, or caregiver.

    With love and hope,
    Dalisse (& Luis!)
    Loving Pieces Books

    💙 What book helped you or a child you love feel seen? Share your story with our community, we’re all learning together. Find us on Instagram @lovingpiecesbooks or explore more resources at lovingpiecesbooks.com.

  • Understanding Sensory Processing Differences in Autism: A Journey to Empathy and Support

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    When the World Feels Too Loud: Understanding Sensory Processing Differences in Autism

    You know that feeling when you walk into a crowded mall during the holidays? The fluorescent lights buzzing overhead, a cacophony of voices bouncing off the walls, the overwhelming smell of cinnamon pretzels mixing with department store perfume?

    Now imagine feeling that way in a regular grocery store. Or your own kitchen. Or sitting in a classroom.

    This is the reality for many autistic children navigating sensory processing differences, and if you’re reading this, I’m guessing you’re searching for answers because someone you love is struggling with a world that just feels… too much.

    I see you. And I’m here to walk alongside you on this journey.

    The Day Everything Made Sense

    Let me tell you about Emma (not her real name), a little girl whose mom reached out to me last year, exhausted and confused. Emma would have complete meltdowns at birthday parties. She refused to wear anything but one specific pair of pajamas. And grocery shopping? Forget about it.

    “Everyone thinks I’m just a bad parent who can’t control her child,” her mom told me, tears in her eyes. “But I know something else is going on.”

    She was right. And once we started unpacking Emma’s sensory processing differences, everything shifted, not because Emma changed, but because the adults around her finally understood what she’d been trying to communicate all along.

    What’s Really Happening: Sensory Processing Decoded

    Here’s the thing about sensory processing, we all experience it, but for autistic children, the volume knob is turned way up (or sometimes way down) on one or more of their senses.

    Think of your brain as a filter. For most neurotypical people, that filter sorts through sensory information efficiently: “This is important. This can be ignored. This is background noise.” But for many autistic children, that filter works differently. Every sensation demands equal attention.

    Research from occupational therapy studies shows that 60-90% of autistic children experience some form of sensory processing difference. This isn’t just being “picky” or “difficult”, this is their neurological reality.

    What This Actually Looks Like

    When I talk to parents, I often hear:

    “She can’t stand the seams in her socks.”

    “He covers his ears every time the blender runs.”

    “Bright lights make her anxious and irritable.”

    “He won’t eat anything except three specific foods.”

    These aren’t behavioral issues, they’re sensory experiences that feel genuinely uncomfortable or even painful. Imagine wearing a wool sweater on bare skin all day, or listening to nails on a chalkboard during every conversation. That’s the level of distress some sensory inputs can cause.

    And here’s what breaks my heart: many of these children can’t articulate what’s wrong. They just know something feels bad, and their bodies react with meltdowns, shutdowns, or avoidance.

    The Grocery Store Story (And Why It Matters)

    Remember Emma? Her grocery store meltdowns made perfect sense once we understood her sensory world.

    The fluorescent lights flickered at a frequency most of us don’t consciously notice, but Emma did, and it felt like a strobe light. The refrigerator hum was painful to her ears. The smells from the bakery, seafood counter, and produce section all hit her at once. Strangers’ carts rattled. Someone’s perfume was overpowering.

    She wasn’t being “difficult.” She was drowning in sensory input while trying to hold it together.

    Once her mom understood this, they started shopping at opening time when it was quieter, Emma wore noise-canceling headphones, and they kept trips short with a clear plan. The meltdowns didn’t disappear overnight, but they became less frequent and less intense. Things that we have used with our son’s many times and we could share these strategies with Emma’s mom.

    Because understanding changed everything.

    Practical Strategies That Actually Help

    Okay, so now you understand the why. Let’s talk about the what now.

    Start With Detective Work

    You can’t support your child’s sensory needs until you understand what those needs are. I know … easier said than done when your child is pre-verbal or can’t explain what’s bothering them (My youngest Guillermo now is in this stage).

    Try keeping a simple sensory journal for a week. When does your child seem distressed? What’s happening in the environment? What do they gravitate toward when they need comfort?

    You might notice patterns: meltdowns always happen after noisy environments, or your child seeks out tight spaces when overwhelmed, or certain clothing textures are consistently rejected.

    Create a “Yes Space”

    This is my favorite strategy, and I’ve seen it work wonders. Designate one area in your home as a sensory-safe zone, I call it a “yes space” because everything in it is a YES for your child’s sensory system.

    For us, this meant:

    When our son felt overwhelmed, he knew he could retreat there. No questions asked. No punishment. Just safety. We have this set in our play area.

    Sensory Breaks Are Not Optional

    I know you’re busy. I know schedules are tight. But here’s the truth: sensory breaks aren’t a luxury, they’re a necessity.

    Think of it like this: if you were running a marathon, you wouldn’t skip water stations. Your child is running a sensory marathon every single day just existing in a world that’s not designed for their nervous system.

    Build in short sensory breaks throughout the day:

    • 10 minutes of jumping on a trampoline

    • Playing with kinetic sand or play dough

    • Swinging

    • Pushing against a wall

    • Deep pressure activities (like a “sandwich hug” with pillows)

    These aren’t just nice activities, they’re regulatory tools that help your child’s nervous system reset. Here are some of the products we use at home: https://lovingpiecesbooks.com/authors-picks/

    The Headphones That Changed Everything

    Can I share something vulnerable? I resisted getting my kids noise-canceling headphones for way too long because I worried about what other people would think. Would it make him stand out? Would people judge?

    But you know what? The first time he wore them to his cousins play at her school he actually enjoyed the play instead of melting down, I realized my own discomfort was standing in the way of his comfort.

    If noise is a trigger for your child, invest in good noise-canceling headphones. Let them wear them whenever they need to. This is accommodation, not avoidance. Here are some choices: https://lovingpiecesbooks.com/ear-defenders-ear-plugs/

    Work With, Not Against

    Here’s where I see parents (including myself, in my work) struggle: we try to “fix” sensory sensitivities instead of working with them.

    Your child may never love loud environments. They may always prefer certain textures. And that’s okay.

    Instead of forcing them to “get used to” things that cause genuine distress, we can:

    • Prepare them for sensory challenges ahead of time

    • Offer choices and control where possible

    • Respect their “no” about sensory inputs

    • Celebrate their courage when they try something challenging

    Building a Village That Gets It

    One of the loneliest parts of parenting an autistic child can be feeling like you’re constantly explaining, defending, or justifying your child’s needs.

    Talk to the Teachers

    I know it’s hard to be an advocate when you’re exhausted. But educators genuinely want to help, they just need to understand what your child needs.

    Share specific information: For example: “Mia does better with flexible seating because sitting still at a hard desk is physically uncomfortable for her sensory system.” This is more helpful than “She can’t sit still.”

    Ask about simple accommodations:

    • Can your child use a wobble cushion or standing desk?

    • Is there a quiet space they can use when overwhelmed?

    • Can they have a fidget toy during instruction time?

    Many teachers are willing to make these adjustments, they just need to understand why they matter.

    Educate Your Circle

    I’ll be honest: some people won’t get it. They’ll think you’re “making excuses” or “being too soft.”

    But many people like grandparents, friends, babysitters, genuinely want to understand and support your child. They just don’t have the language or knowledge.

    Share articles (like this one!). Explain specific triggers. Give them concrete ways to help.

    When my friend explained to her mother-in-law that her grandson’s refusal to hug wasn’t personal, it was sensory, their relationship transformed. Grandma started asking, “Would you like a high-five or a wave?” instead of forcing hugs. And you know what? Eventually, he started initiating hugs on his terms.

    Empathy and Autism Parenting

    What I Wish Someone Had Told Me

    You don’t have to get this perfect. You’re going to have days where you forget the headphones, or you push too hard, or you’re so exhausted you can’t muster the patience you wish you had.

    That doesn’t make you a bad parent. It makes you human.

    What matters is that you’re here, reading this, trying to understand. That you’re committed to seeing your child’s sensory needs as real and valid. That you’re willing to make your home, your routines, and your expectations more flexible to accommodate their nervous system.

    That’s love in action.

    Small Steps, Big Impact

    If you’re feeling overwhelmed right now, here’s what I want you to do:

    Pick just one thing from this article. Maybe it’s creating a calm corner. Maybe it’s buying those noise-canceling headphones you’ve been considering. Maybe it’s just noticing your child’s sensory patterns this week without trying to fix anything.

    Start there.

    Because here’s the beautiful truth: when we make space for our children’s sensory needs, we’re not just reducing meltdowns (though that’s a nice side effect). We’re sending them a powerful message:

    Your experience of the world is valid. Your needs matter. You don’t have to change who you are to deserve support.

    Resources for Your Journey

    Understanding sensory processing differences is just the beginning. If you’re looking for more support, I’ve gathered resources that have genuinely helped the families I learned with:

    📚 Autism: Calming the Chaos by us Loving Pieces Books is the book that can open your eyes to sensory processing. It’s comprehensive yet accessible, perfect for kids to visually understand what sensory overload may look like and even though it’s a children’s book, parents can benefit from it specially if you are just starting to understand these differences.

    And of course, I’ve created FREE sensory strategy guides and printables on Loving Pieces Books that you can download today, visual schedules, sensory break ideas, and accommodation request templates.

    Your child’s sensory world may be different from yours, but it’s not wrong. It’s not something to fix or overcome. It’s simply how they experience life, and when we honor that, we create space for them to thrive as their authentic selves.

    You’re doing an amazing job navigating this journey. Keep going. Keep learning. Keep advocating.

    And remember: you’re not alone in this.

    With hope and solidarity,
    Dalisse
    Loving Pieces Books

    💙 What sensory strategy has been most helpful for your family? I’d love to hear your story, share in the comments below or connect with our community on Instagram @lovingpiecesbooks.

    Check out our books and FREE Resources

  • Building Self-Confidence in Autistic Children Through Storytelling: A Journey of Empowerment

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    Building Self-Confidence in Autistic Children Through Storytelling: A Journey of Empowerment

    I want to start with a moment I don’t usually talk about.

    A few years ago, I was sitting on the floor of my son’s bedroom, surrounded by books that were supposed to “help” him, the kind with perfectly behaved cartoon kids and neat, tidy resolutions. You know the type: the stories that feel nothing like real life.

    He was flipping through one of them, half-interested, half-checking out. And I remember thinking, “This isn’t him. This isn’t us. These stories don’t see him.”

    I felt that familiar ache, the one that whispers, You’re not doing enough.

    But then something shifted. I picked up a different book, one where the main character moved through the world the way he did. Literal. Sensitive. Observant. Beautifully unique.

    Halfway through the story, he did something incredibly small but incredibly meaningful: he scooted closer. No words. Just a tiny movement… but to me, it felt like a bridge had formed between us.

    That’s when it hit me:

    Confidence begins the moment a child feels genuinely seen. And stories have the power to do that in a way nothing else can.

    Why Stories Matter So Much for Autistic Children

    I’m not here to lecture you with a stack of research papers, but experts have long known that storytelling helps children understand emotions, develop identity, and build resilience.

    I’ve seen this in real life, too, both with my own kids and with countless families in our community.

    Stories don’t just teach lessons.
    They offer mirrors.
    They offer language.
    They offer belonging.

    Especially for autistic children, who often navigate a world that misunderstands their rhythms, interests, and sensitivities.

    Let’s break down the real magic behind storytelling, the kind that actually builds confidence from the inside out. The books that we pour our our love in creating for all Autistic Children not only ours.

    Seeing Their Strengths Reflected Back

    When you read stories that resonate, they become a mirror. They reflect the strengths within. For autistic children, tales that show characters like themselves can be transformative. These stories help them see their potential. Imagine a child reading about another who excels in areas they too find interesting. This connection is powerful. It reinforces what they are already good at. Here’s the key insight: seeing their strengths in stories can boost their confidence.

    But it’s more than just seeing strengths. It’s about understanding them. Autistic children often have unique interests. Stories that highlight these interests validate their passions. This validation is crucial. It tells them that what they love is important. It encourages them to pursue what they’re passionate about. This pursuit can lead to personal growth. And when growth happens, confidence follows.Have you ever watched your child light up when something finally “clicks” for them?

    That spark is everything.

    When autistic children see characters who think like they think, feel like they feel, and love what they love, they begin to understand something powerful:

    “My strengths matter. My interests matter. I matter.”

    So many autistic children have deep passions, for my kids they love trains, animals, space, history, weather patterns. When those passions show up in stories, something shifts. Their shoulders soften. Their eyes widen. There’s this quiet sigh of relief because, for once, the world matches them instead of the other way around.

    And if I’m honest, it’s a relief for us, too.
    It’s like, Okay, they see themselves.
    That alone builds confidence more than any motivational speech ever could.

    Resilience Through Relatable Characters

    Let me share a tiny scene from our home.

    One night, while reading a story about a boy who struggles with sensory overload, my son paused and whispered, “Like me.” Two words. That’s it. But those two words were the doorway to a conversation we had never been able to touch before.

    Stories can give our children the courage to face hard things, not because the character is perfect, but because the character keeps trying.

    They learn:

    • Everyone struggles
    • Struggles are normal
    • There are different ways to solve problems
    • They are not alone in what they feel

    That’s resilience… not the tough-it-out kind, but the deeply human kind that grows slowly and quietly.

    Embracing Identity Through Narratives

    Let’s be honest. Growing up autistic in a world designed for neurotypicals can chip away at a child’s self-worth. I’ve seen it. Maybe you’ve seen it too.

    That’s why it matters so much when stories celebrate neurodiversity instead of trying to “fix” it.

    When a child sees affirming stories, they learn:

    “My identity is not a problem. It’s a strength.”

    These stories give them the words to name their needs without shame. They teach them how to advocate. They help them understand their sensory world. They normalize differences instead of highlighting them as flaws.

    This is where confidence begins to root itself deeply, in identity, not performance.

    Safe Spaces for Expression

    I’ll be honest with you: my kids didn’t always have the language to express their emotions. And I didn’t always know how to help them find it.

    Stories changed that for us.

    Characters model how to name feelings, how to ask for help, how to say “I need a break.” And suddenly, those hard conversations become softer, easier, more accessible.

    Stories create the emotional safety net many autistic children need before they can step into self-confidence.

    And as parents, reading with them becomes its own version of therapy, one we get to share from the couch under a blanket.

    Books as Tools for Social-Emotional Learning

    This isn’t about “fixing” our kids. It’s about equipping them.

    Books naturally teach:

    • empathy
    • problem-solving
    • emotional regulation
    • communication skills
    • navigating friendships
    • understanding boundaries

    And when these lessons come through characters who feel familiar… they stick.

    Research backs this up, but honestly, our lived experiences say the same thing.

    The right story at the right time can change everything.

    Authentic Books for Neurodiversity

    Authentic books are more than stories. They are tools for inclusion and learning. They celebrate neurodiversity and teach valuable lessons.

    The Truth: You Don’t Need to Be a Perfect Parent to Build Confidence

    If you take nothing else from this blog, I hope it’s this:

    Confidence does not come from perfection. It comes from connection.

    Every time you read a story that feels like your child…
    Every time you help them see their strengths in a character…
    Every time you give them language for their inner world…
    You’re building confidence, brick by brick.

    Even on the days when you feel like you’re winging it.
    Especially on those days, actually.

    You’re already doing more than you realize.

    If You Want to Take This Journey Even Deeper…

    If something in this conversation resonated with you, if you felt a little spark of recognition or relief, I created something with you and your child in mind.

    Check out our book Autism: Confidence Starts Here

    It’s filled with the kind of stories I wish I’d had when I first started parenting autistic children stories that validate, empower, and help kids see the brilliance in who they are.

    Your child deserves to feel confident.
    You deserve tools that actually help.
    And you’re not alone in this.

    One story at a time, we can help our children stand a little taller in who they already are.

    Check out our books and FREE Resources

    With love and Kindness,

    Dalisse

  • When Words Mean Exactly What They Say: Understanding Literal Thinking in Autism

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    As I watch my son Adrián navigate daily conversations, I’m often transported back to my own childhood. The confused expressions, the moments of pause when someone says something that doesn’t quite make sense, the way he process language so carefully and thoroughly it all feels so familiar because I lived it too.

    Being an autistic adult raising autistic children has given me a unique window into one of the most misunderstood aspects of autism: literal thinking. And let me tell you, it’s both beautiful and challenging in ways that neurotypical people might not fully grasp.

    What Is Literal Thinking?

    Literal thinking means taking words, phrases, and expressions at their exact face value. When someone tells my son to “break a leg” before his school presentation, he genuinely worries about injury. When I was his age and heard “it’s raining cats and dogs,” I remember looking up at the sky, genuinely puzzled about where all these animals were supposed to be falling from.

    This isn’t about being unable to learn, it’s about how our autistic brains process language differently. We hear precision where others hear flexibility. We seek clarity where others assume understanding.

    My Own Journey with Literal Thinking

    I remember being eight years old and my teacher saying, ” you have your head in the clouds” or “I need you to keep your eyes peeled.” I spent the entire day worried about what would happen to my eyes and why anyone would want to peel them. The anxiety was real, the confusion overwhelming, and the embarrassment when I finally asked what she meant was something that stayed with me for years.

    As an adult, I’ve learned to navigate figurative language, but it took time, patience, and a lot of gentle correction. The beautiful thing is that my literal thinking hasn’t disappeared, it’s evolved. It helps me be precise in my communication, thorough in my work, and incredibly detail-oriented in everything I do.

    Watching My Children Navigate This World

    When I see Adrián pause after someone uses an idiom, or asks for clarification on something that seems “obvious” to others, my heart both breaks and swells. It breaks because I remember that confusion, that feeling of being on the outside of some secret code everyone else seemed to know. But it swells because I see their minds working, processing, trying to understand, and that’s actually incredible.

    These moments take me right back to my own childhood:

    • The time someone said “hold your horses” and I looked around for horses
    • When my mom said dinner would be “in a jiffy” and I asked how long exactly a jiffy was
    • The confusion when someone said they were “pulling my leg” when their hands were nowhere near my legs

    The Beauty in Literal Thinking

    Here’s what many people don’t realize: literal thinking isn’t a deficit, it’s a different way of processing the world that comes with its own strengths. My children (and I) tend to be:

    • Incredibly honest and direct in communication
    • Precise and accurate when giving or following instructions
    • Detail-oriented in ways that catch things others miss
    • Consistent in how we interpret and respond to information

    How We Can Support Our Literal Thinkers

    As parents, educators, and community members, we can help our autistic children (and adults) by:

    Being patient with questions. When a child asks what seems like an obvious question, they’re not being difficult, they’re seeking genuine understanding.

    Explaining idioms and figurative language. Don’t assume they’ll “pick it up.” Take time to explain what expressions actually mean.

    Appreciating their precision. When they correct seemingly small details, they’re showing you how their minds work, and often they’re right about those details!

    Modeling clear communication. Say what you mean as directly as possible. It helps everyone understand better.

    A Resource for Families

    This journey of understanding literal thinking in autism, both from my own childhood memories and watching my children, inspired me to write “Autism: My Invisible Backpack.” This book is specifically designed for autistic children ages 6-14, helping them understand their own minds and giving parents insights into how their children process the world.

    In the book, we explore not just literal thinking, but all the unique ways autistic minds work. It’s written from the perspective of understanding and learning more about these differences, not trying to change them. Because the goal isn’t to make our children think like neurotypical people, it’s to help them understand themselves and help others understand them.

    Moving Forward with Understanding

    Every time I watch Adrián or Guillermo work through a confusing expression or ask for clarification on something, I’m reminded that their brains are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do. They’re processing, analyzing, and trying to understand with incredible thoroughness.

    As a community, when we understand and appreciate literal thinking, we create space for autistic individuals to thrive exactly as they are. We stop seeing their need for clarity as a problem to fix and start seeing it as a different, and often more precise, way of engaging with the world.

    My invisible backpack is lighter these days, filled with understanding instead of confusion, with acceptance instead of shame. And I’m working every day to ensure that my children’s backpacks are lighter than mine ever was.

    If you’re parenting an autistic child or supporting autistic individuals in your life, “Autism: My Invisible Backpack” offers insights, understanding, and practical guidance for ages 6-12. Get your copy here and join us in celebrating the beautiful, unique ways autistic minds work.

  • How to Prepare Your Classroom to Welcome an Autistic Student: Tips for Teachers at the Start of the School Year

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    The start of the school year is an exciting time for everyone: new beginnings, brand new materials and endless new learning opportunities full of excitement. At the same time, for some children it can also be a period of anxiety, uncertainty, insecurity and confusion.


    I am a teacher and have been able to accompany, guide and support children of different ages and characteristics, including students diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. I have worked both in Spain and in Switzerland, where I lived and worked for three years. There, I learned German, worked with a new school curriculum and learned new methodologies and resources in a totally immersive way. I am currently dedicated to the creation and comprehensive design of teaching materials, educational projects and personalized resources, always adapted to the unique characteristics and needs of each learner.
    This experience has shown me the importance of being present at every stage, especially at the beginning of the school year, when everything is new and challenging for many children.

    New beginnings may not be easy, but with preparation, empathy and specific strategies, we can make their transition to the classroom much more friendly and positive. Here are some tips:

    1.  Before the first day: lay the groundwork

    Learn about your student

    Establishing close and collaborative communication with parents or guardians is essential to getting to know the student in depth and being able to support them in a respectful and effective manner. Taking an interest in their life beyond the classroom will give you valuable insights into how to create a safer, more predictable and meaningful educational environment.

    You can ask questions that will help you better understand their personality, interests, needs and usual supports. Some suggestions:

    • What do they like or what motivates them?
    • What are their favorite activities or games?
    • Are there any specific topics that interest them? Are there any aspects of daily life that they find more appealing (mealtimes, reading time, etc.)?
    • Are there any topics that they dislike or find unsettling?
    • What situations tend to cause them anxiety/meltdowns?
    • Do they follow specific routines?
    • What supports or adaptations do they use at home or in therapy? When do they use these supports?
    • What strategies do you use at home for crisis situations?
    • Do they have any objects that bring them comfort?
    • Do they know/have any friends who will be with them in the classroom?
    • Do they have sensory hypersensitivity or hyposensitivity? Do they use any items or strategies (such as headphones, sunglasses, clothing with specific textures, etc.) to manage this?
    • Do they follow a specific eating routine or have sensitivities to certain foods (textures, tastes, smells)?
    • Do they have preferences or difficulties related to lighting, such as bright lights or open windows?
    • Do they participate in any activities outside of school hours (sports, music, etc.)?

    Also speak with the child’s previous teachers, not just about curricular adaptations but also to understand how the child develops in the classroom and what aspects promote their well-being, inclusion and enjoyment of learning.

    • What are their learning preferences?
    • In what areas do they need more support?
    • What are their timings? Attention span? Rest time?
    • Are there specific times of the day when they tend to feel more tired?
    • How have social interactions and emotions been worked on previously?
    • What resources have worked best for them and which ones did they enjoy the most?
    • Do they have any preferences regarding classroom layout?

    Don’t expect to have all the answers, but show your willingness to learn and collaborate; that attitude makes all the difference from the start.

    Invite the family for a classroom visit

    Invite families to visit the classroom a few days before the start of school. This experience allows students to explore the space in a calm environment, without the hustle and bustle of the first day, which promotes a more confident and positive adaptation. During the visit, they will be able to:

    • Find their desk and chair.
    • Familiarise themselves with the general layout of the classroom.
    • Identify where the different materials and resources are located: tablets, pencils, cardboard, paper, folders, dictionaries, calculators, etc.
    • Know where to leave their backpack and jacket.
    • Identify their designated spot in the classroom.
    • Know which classmates will be nearby and where their support teacher will sit.
    • Observe what the windows and lights are like and where they are turned on.
    • Locate the bathroom.
    • Discover the quiet corner.
    • Know where to line up and where their place in the line will be.
    • Learn the way to the classroom, the playground and other areas of the school.
    • Explore and play freely with some of the materials, games or resources they will use during the course.
    • Get to know you in a relaxed and unrushed setting.

    Use visual supports

    Prepare visual materials that you can send home:

    • A weekly visual timetable with pictograms that they can print out and take to school every day.
    • Include the materials they need to take to each class (books, pencil case, etc.) and clothing (e.g. wear a tracksuit on PE days).
    • A detailed visual timetable for the first and second days of class.
    • Warning of any changes to the timetable that will be followed throughout the course.
    • Including images or explanations of some of the games, materials or routines that will be used during those first two days.

    These aids not only facilitate understanding of what will happen, but also allow the child to arrive in the classroom with a sense of familiarity and confidence from the very beginning.

    2.  Prepare Adapted and Accessible Materials in Advance

    One of the most important steps we can take before the start of the course is to prepare teaching materials adapted to the characteristics and needs of our autistic student. This involves planning with intention, taking into account how that child best accesses information.

    Why are these materials essential?

    Students on the autism spectrum may process information differently. Having adapted materials facilitates their understanding, reduces anxiety and increases their autonomy, allowing them to participate in classroom activities meaningfully.

    Most importantly, these materials truly promote their holistic development and well-being, as well as their enjoyment of the learning process.

    Adapting materials and creating inclusive resources takes time and is not an easy task, but I can help you.

    https://clarasanchezdesigner.wixsite.com/clara-s/en

    I develop inclusive materials, resources and projects that are truly adapted to the needs and characteristics of our students, focusing on comprehensive development and creating a solid foundation that fosters their autonomy and integration into society.

    I work in collaboration with schools, teachers, families and other professionals. If you need support or are looking for personalized resources, please do not hesitate to contact me. I am here to accompany you on this journey.

    You can learn more about my work, my approach and view examples here: https://clarasanchezdesigner.wixsite.com/clara-s/en

    3.  Be Flexible and Cultivate an Inclusive Community

    There will be difficult days, adjustments along the way and many questions without immediate answers, but there will also be moments of deep connection, lots of learning and celebrations of small (or big) achievements.

    Teach empathy

    Without pointing fingers or labelling, you can introduce stories, activities and materials that encourage reflection on empathy and promote diversity from a respectful and inclusive perspective. Some key messages you can work on with the group are:

    • We all learn in different ways, and that’s okay.
    • There are many ways to communicate and express ourselves, and they are all valid.
    • No two people are alike: our differences enrich us and make growing together a valuable experience.
    • Respecting others and treating them as we would like to be treated is an essential basis for living together.

    Resources like LovingPiecesBooks are a great starting point for addressing these themes in a meaningful and accessible way.

    Conveying these values benefits not only autistic students, but the entire group: when we educate about diversity, we show respect, empathy and understanding. If we all thought the same, acted the same or saw the world in the same way… it would be tremendously boring!

    Set an example with your attitude

    The way you treat autistic students will be the most powerful guide for your pupils. If you listen to them, respect their pace and celebrate their progress, they will do the same.

    Conclusion

    We all need to feel heard, understood and valued, that’s where true inclusion begins. Don’t ignore or avoid, but adapt, connect and build bridges.

    It all starts with the first step, the one we take when we show interest in their characteristics and look for the best way to share knowledge, guide them in their development and find excitement and happiness in every step we take together.

    I wish you a great start to the school year! Warm regards,

    Clara

    Website: https://clarasanchezdesigner.wixsite.com/clara-s/en

    Email: clarasanchezdesigner@gmail.com

  • How We’re Prepping for Our 15-Hour Family Flight!

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    Sensory-Friendly Airplane Toys & Creative Activities for my 5 year old Guillermo.

    Hello friends!

    It’s Dalisse here, and this time we’re gearing up for a big adventure: our whole family—Luis, me, and both kids—are flying overseas for a family trip! A 15-hour flight with all four of us means double the excitement, double the snacks, and yes, probably double the “Are we there yet?” moments.

    Focusing on Guillermo (5 years old):
    Traveling with Guillermo always means a little extra planning. At five, he’s full of energy and curiosity, but long flights can be overwhelming. I know the tablet only lasts so long, so I’m putting together a special kit filled with sensory-friendly toys and creative activities that help him stay calm, entertained, and comfortable.:

    Adrián is easier to entertain—he loves his books and tablet, so I’ve packed his favorites and downloaded some new e-books and videogames for the trip. A set of headphones and a portable charger are must-haves for him. We also read this Blog that gave us some tips: 35 tips & tricks for a stress-free flight from regular flyers,
    airline stewards and pilots

    Our Light Travel Game Plan

    Packing carry-on light is my new secret weapon! The big items checked bags it is! Here’s how we’re keeping things simple and stress-free, here is my wish-list for this trip:

    I´m thinking carry-on for me and a Backpack with my computer, Trunki Bag for Guillermo and a small backpack for him (light-weight).

    This little ride-on suitcase is a lifesaver. Guillermo can sit and rest if he gets tired in the airport, and I can pull him along no more carrying a sleepy kid and all our bags at once!

    Amazon Link: https://amzn.to/449Hxsa

    Small Backpack for Toys:
    All of Guillermo’s sensory toys, coloring books, and creative activities fit into a small backpack. It’s easy for him to carry, and I can tuck it under the seat for quick access.

    Amazon Links:

    BackPack: https://amzn.to/4lwcwV1

    Mesh zipper to organize toys: https://amzn.to/3I7toDi

    Name Tags: Just in Case:
    I always attach a name tag to Guillermo’s clothes and bags with my contact info. Airports can be overwhelming, and this gives me peace of mind in case he wanders off (probably run not walk!).

    Amazon Links:

    Luggage Tags: https://amzn.to/4lsvfRw

    Name Tags: https://amzn.to/45QhffV Along with the Sunflower Landyard: https://amzn.to/3TmoPY7

    Temporary Name Tattoos: https://amzn.to/46qCjtx

    Leg Rest for the Airplane:
    We’re bringing a portable leg rest or bed so Guillermo can stretch out and get comfy during the flight. It turns his seat into a little nest and helps him relax (and sleep during the night!), make sure you check before with airline if they are permitted.

    Amazon Links:

    Inflatable Bed: https://amzn.to/4kh2eXS

    Inflatable Bed: https://amzn.to/46nkgEw

    Check out this video: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/rAcQj4hk0dM

    Portable Leg rest: (Less Bulky) https://amzn.to/3GiqZFk

    Seat Hammock (Ideal Short Flights) https://amzn.to/4l9Ffza

    Why Sensory-Friendly Toys Are Our Must-Haves

    Airplanes are noisy, crowded, and not always the most comfortable especially for kids who need extra sensory support. That’s why I’ve put together a special “travel kit” for Guillermo, filled with things that help him feel safe, busy, and soothed.

    Our favorites for the flight:

    Creative Play: Colors, Stickers, and Window Art

    When toys lose their magic, it’s time to get creative!

    My Packing Tips for a Smooth Flight

    • Keep it simple: Only the essentials in Guillermo’s backpack.
    • Rotate the fun: I introduce new toys and activities one at a time.
    • Bring comfort: His favorite plush toy and a cozy blanket are always with us.

    Final Thoughts Before Takeoff

    Fifteen hours is a long time, but with a little planning (and a lot of love), I’m hoping we’ll make some special memories together. If you’re prepping for a big flight too, I hope these ideas help your journey feel a little lighter and a lot more fun.

    Do you have any favorite travel tips or must-have items? Share them in the comments. I’d love to hear what works for your family!

    Wish us luck, and I’ll let you know how it goes!

    Safe travels,
    Dalisse

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    Portable battery charger Phone https://amzn.to/4nuZzg0

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    Luggage Scale digital https://amzn.to/46neWRu

    Mini Pillow Guillermo likes https://amzn.to/4l9HeDN

    Any ideas I missed?

  • Traveling with Autistic Kids

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    Traveling as a family is a beautiful way to create memories, explore new places, and experience the world together. But when you have an autistic child, the idea of travel can feel overwhelming. Sensory challenges, routine changes, and crowded spaces can all add an extra layer of planning and preparation.

    As travel enthusiasts and parents of two autistic kids, ages 10 and 4, we understand these challenges firsthand. That’s why we created Loving Pieces Books, a project inspired by our journey as parents navigating autism. Through our books, resources, and experiences, we aim to empower families with tools to build confidence, navigate challenges, and embrace the unique strengths of their autistic children.

    We love to travel, but we’ve learned that successful trips require extra planning, flexibility, and patience. Along with Viajando por el mundo Mundial we have made this post, we’ll share some of our best strategies for making travel smoother, plus a FREE downloadable guide packed with practical tips for planning, packing, and handling unexpected situations.

    Keep in mind: Every autistic child is different! Some kids need more preparation than others, and some may not require as many sensory accommodations. This guide is designed for all families—just take the tips that best fit your child’s needs.

    Choose Autism-Friendly Destinations

    Not all travel spots are created equal when it comes to accessibility and sensory accommodations.

    We always choose destinations that align with our kids’ interests and sensory preferences. For example, our children love water, so beach destinations or places with pools work best for us. On the other hand, places with loud noises, bright lights, or unpredictable schedules can be overwhelming.

    Some autism-friendly travel perks to look for include:


    ✔️ Theme Parks with Accessibility Programs – Many offer fast passes, quiet spaces, or sensory-friendly times.
    ✔️ Hotels with Flexible Policies – Some accommodations allow early check-in, fridge access for special dietary needs, or quiet room requests.
    ✔️ Museums & Attractions with Sensory Guides – Check if they provide visual guides or sensory accommodations.

    Plan for Sensory Needs

    Changes in environment, loud noises, and crowds can be overwhelming. Preparing in advance makes all the difference.

    ✔️ Pack Comfort & Sensory Tools – Noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses for bright spaces, weighted blankets, or favorite toys.
    ✔️ Bring Safe Foods – If your child has dietary restrictions, pack their preferred snacks or research restaurants ahead of time. (For us, Guillermo only drinks a specific brand of milk, so we make sure to have it available!)
    ✔️ Create a Calming Space – Even in a hotel room or family member’s house, setting up a quiet retreat with familiar objects can help ease anxiety.

    Prepare with Visual Aids & Social Stories

    Many autistic kids feel more comfortable when they know what to expect.

    We create a travel map for our older son, Adrián, so he can follow along and understand the trip step by step. It makes him feel more in control. You can also:

    ✔️ Use a Visual Schedule – Show images of each part of the trip (packing, airport, hotel, activities).
    ✔️ Watch Videos in Advance – Preview airports, hotels, or attractions online to help familiarize them.
    ✔️ Read Social Stories – These help explain what happens during a flight, road trip, or stay at a new place.

    We usually don’t tell our kids about trips too far in advance to avoid prolonged anxiety, but this varies by child—do what works best for your family!

    Air Travel Tips: What You Need to Know

    Flying can be one of the trickiest parts of traveling with an autistic child, but good preparation makes all the difference.

    ✔️ Research Airline Accommodations – Emirates is the world’s first autism-certified airline! Some airlines allow pre-boarding or special assistance.
    ✔️ Use Airport Assistance Programs – TSA Cares (U.S.), AENA’s Invisible Disability Badge (Spain), and Sunflower Lanyards (Europe) can help families navigate security with less stress.
    ✔️ Pack Distractions & Comfort Items – Fidget toys, downloaded favorite shows, and snacks can help keep your child engaged.
    ✔️ Boarding Strategy – Some kids do better with pre-boarding, while others prefer to board last to minimize waiting time.

    Handling Meltdowns in Uncontrolled Spaces

    Meltdowns happen, and that’s okay! But in spaces where you can’t easily leave—like airplanes, ships, or crowded attractions—it’s important to have a game plan:

    ✔️ Identify “Safe Spots” – Find a quiet corner or rest area in advance.
    ✔️ Bring a Comfort Toolkit – Noise-canceling headphones, chewables, fidget toys, or a weighted lap pad.
    ✔️ Communicate with Staff – Flight attendants, cruise staff, and theme park employees are often willing to help if they’re aware of your child’s needs.

    Staying with Family? Set Expectations in Advance

    Not all relatives will understand autism, and that’s okay. Help them prepare by:

    ✔️ Explaining What to Expect – Let them know if your child has sensory sensitivities, food preferences, or needs quiet time.
    ✔️ Bringing Familiar Items – Favorite blankets, toys, or bedtime routines can help your child adjust to a new environment.
    ✔️ Creating a Safe Space – If the home isn’t autism-friendly, set up a designated quiet area for your child to retreat to when overwhelmed.

    Handling Unexpected Challenges

    No matter how much you plan, unexpected things happen—like bad weather, sudden sickness, or a closed attraction.

    ✔️ Prepare for Flexibility – Teach your child that “sometimes things change, and that’s okay.”
    ✔️ Have Backup Activities – Bring extra entertainment options in case plans need to shift.
    ✔️ Self-Care for Parents – Travel can be exhausting! Take turns with your partner or support system to get small breaks.

    Check out this guide by Skyscanner for understanding Mobility and accessibility standards and rights. They share some practical tips for navigating transport, accommodation, and any additional service requirements you might need as part of your trip.

    Want More Travel Tips? Download Our Free Guide!

    We know firsthand how overwhelming travel planning can be.

    That’s why we created a FREE Autism Travel Guide with:

    ✔️ A detailed packing checklist
    ✔️ Sensory-friendly travel strategies
    ✔️ Real-life tips for handling meltdowns in new environments

    📩 Download your free guide here: https://mailchi.mp/14d44e0cabd9/mjk0taqwjc

    Traveling with an autistic child is possible and it can even be fun! With the right preparation, you can create wonderful family memories while making sure your child feels safe and supported every step of the way.

    Do you have any travel experiences or tips to share? Drop them in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

    With love,

    Dalisse and Luis

    Lovingpiecesbooks.com

  • 5 Gentle ways to boost your autistic child’s confidence

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    Ever feel like the world expects your autistic child to fit into a mold that just doesn’t work for them? I know I have. As a mom to two amazing autistic boys (ages 4 and 11) and an autistic adult myself, I’ve seen firsthand how confidence isn’t about making our kids “fit in” it’s about helping them feel safe, valued, and celebrated for exactly who they are.

    If you’re reading this, maybe you’re searching for ways to nurture your child’s self-esteem without adding pressure or expecting them to be someone they’re not.

    Trust me, you’re not alone. Confidence for our kiddos doesn’t come from one big leap, it grows from a hundred tiny moments: small choices, gentle encouragement, and the unspoken message that they belong, just as they are.

    Here are five gentle, real-life strategies that have made a difference in our house and might just help in yours, too.

    1. Let them lead (even in the little things)

    So often, decisions are made for our autistic kids, and sometimes out of necessity, just because it’s faster, and in many cases easier for us parents. But giving them agency, even in the tiniest moments, is powerful.

    Let them choose their socks. Decide which book to read at bedtime. Pick the order of their morning routine. These “you decide” moments tell your child, “Your voice matters.” And every time they make a choice, their confidence grows a little more. And sometimes it evens avoid a meltdown!

    Tip: In our Confidence-Boosting Workbook, there’s a page for kids to express their preferences visually, perfect for non-speaking or minimally verbal kids, too. We made this workbook out of our experience with both our kids, we have to be very visual since Guille and Adri learn better this way.

    Grab the free workbook here.

    2. Celebrate effort, not outcome

    It’s so easy to focus on results—did they finish the puzzle, get the answer right, make it through the playdate? But real confidence comes from knowing that trying matters just as much as succeeding.

    Instead of “Good job for getting it right,” try:

    • “You kept going, even when it got tough!”
    • “You asked for help and that’s brave.”
    • “You were nervous, but you gave it a try. I’m so proud of you.”

    This helps your child see that their value isn’t tied to perfection. It’s about persistence, courage, and being themselves.

    3. Create predictable wins

    Confidence loves predictability. When our kids know what to expect, and have a chance to succeed at something meaningful to them, their self-esteem blooms.

    In our home, we create “predictable wins” by:

    • Using visual checklists they can track themselves
    • Giving “quiet hero” awards for self-regulation or kindness
    • Setting up simple routines with positive reinforcement

    Need help creating visual wins? Our workbook has printable routines and reward charts sensory-friendly and easy to use.
    Grab the free workbook here.

    4. Use visual affirmations every day

    For visual learners (like my boys!), seeing positive words every day is so powerful. We stick affirmations on the fridge, bathroom mirror, even have them in our phones. When we repeat them together, it’s a ritual, not a lecture. We always try to make it fun, and not like “homework”

    Some of our favorites:

    • “I can try things in my own way.”
    • “I’m allowed to ask for help.”
    • “My brain is different, and that’s a good thing.”

    Head over to the freebies section in the wed we have some free affirmation cards too 🙂

    5. Model confidence (imperfectly)

    Our kids are always watching us even when we think they’re not. Let them see you try new things, mess up, get nervous, and ask for help. Narrate your feelings out loud: “I feel a little anxious, but I’m going to try anyway.” Show them that confidence isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real, and being kind to yourself along the way.

    Confidence doesn’t grow in silence. It grows every time our kids hear us say, “I believe in you”—and every time we show them how to believe in themselves, with tools that are visual, practical, and emotionally safe.

    If you’re looking for a gentle way to start building that confidence today, download our free Confidence-Boosting Workbook for Autistic Kids. It’s filled with simple exercises, affirmation cards, and visual supports designed to help you and your child grow together.

    And for a deeper dive, I’m so proud to share our beautifully illustrated children’s book:

    Autism: Confidence Starts Here

    Available worldwide on Amazon. This heartwarming story follows Adrián, my oldest son who learns to embrace his unique strengths and build resilience through relatable adventures and affirmations. It’s packed with practical strategies for parents and empowering messages for kids, making it a perfect companion on your family’s journey toward self-acceptance and pride. For children ages 6-12.

    Get your copy of Autism: Confidence Starts Here on Amazon today.

    You’ve got this. And more importantly, so do they.

    With warmth and understanding,
    Dalisse
    Autistic Mom
    lovingpiecesbooks.com

  • Our story of hope and perseverance.

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    Hello parents,

    Raising our two incredible boys, Adrián and Guillermo, has been a journey filled with twists and turns, challenges, and triumphs. Some days, I wake up feeling overwhelmed, wanting nothing more than to stay in bed and let the world spin on without me. On those days, the weight of parenthood feels heavier—the uncertainty of what the day will bring, the struggles, the meltdowns. But then I see them: Adrián’s smile lighting up the room, Guillermo’s infectious laughter. And something inside me shifts. Their happiness, their progress, and the little victories remind me why we keep moving forward.

    Love is everything.

    Luis and I have learned to take one day at a time. With two boys on the autism spectrum, no two days are the same. Some days are filled with breakthroughs, while others come with moments where we feel lost or uncertain. But every day, we face it together as a family, united by love and the deep bond we share.

    Adrián and Guillermo have very different personalities. Adrián is curious, thoughtful, and loves to explore the world through his own unique lens. Guillermo is energetic, playful, deeply musical, and full of life. These two little souls have taught us more than we ever imagined about patience, unconditional love, and what it means to truly open your heart and mind to new perspectives.

    In the beginning, we were scared. Scared of what the future might hold, scared of the unknown. But as time has passed, we’ve grown stronger. We’ve discovered a strength we didn’t know we had and a love so deep it transcends any challenges we face. We’ve learned to let go of expectations and to embrace the beauty of their uniqueness.

    Our journey with Adrián and Guillermo has shown us that life isn’t about comparing them to others or wishing things were different. It’s about celebrating their victories, no matter how small, and finding joy in the moments where they thrive. Watching them flourish, watching them be happy and healthy, has been the greatest reward.

    There are still days when I feel overwhelmed, when the tears flow, and when I question if I’m doing enough as a parent. But I know that Luis and I are doing the best we can. Together, we are stronger. And with our boys by our side, we face each day with courage, knowing that no matter what, we are giving them all the love and support they need to be the best versions of themselves.

    Adrián and Guillermo came into our lives to teach us something important—that love isn’t about perfection. It’s about embracing the journey, with all its ups and downs, and appreciating the beautiful moments of growth, connection, and happiness along the way.

    So here we are, taking one day at a time, cherishing every milestone, and learning to live in the present. We’re grateful for the lessons our boys have taught us and for the way they continue to inspire us every single day. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. And together, as a family, we will keep moving forward, stronger and more united than ever.

    With love and understanding,
    Dalisse

    Loving Pieces Books