Autism

Hello parents,

Raising our two incredible boys, Adrián and Guillermo, has been a journey filled with twists and turns, challenges, and triumphs. Some days, I wake up feeling overwhelmed, wanting nothing more than to stay in bed and let the world spin on without me. On those days, the weight of parenthood feels heavier—the uncertainty of what the day will bring, the struggles, the meltdowns. But then I see them: Adrián’s smile lighting up the room, Guillermo’s infectious laughter. And something inside me shifts. Their happiness, their progress, and the little victories remind me why we keep moving forward.

Love is everything.

Luis and I have learned to take one day at a time. With two boys on the autism spectrum, no two days are the same. Some days are filled with breakthroughs, while others come with moments where we feel lost or uncertain. But every day, we face it together as a family, united by love and the deep bond we share.

Adrián and Guillermo have very different personalities. Adrián is curious, thoughtful, and loves to explore the world through his own unique lens. Guillermo is energetic, playful, deeply musical, and full of life. These two little souls have taught us more than we ever imagined about patience, unconditional love, and what it means to truly open your heart and mind to new perspectives.

In the beginning, we were scared. Scared of what the future might hold, scared of the unknown. But as time has passed, we’ve grown stronger. We’ve discovered a strength we didn’t know we had and a love so deep it transcends any challenges we face. We’ve learned to let go of expectations and to embrace the beauty of their uniqueness.

Our journey with Adrián and Guillermo has shown us that life isn’t about comparing them to others or wishing things were different. It’s about celebrating their victories, no matter how small, and finding joy in the moments where they thrive. Watching them flourish, watching them be happy and healthy, has been the greatest reward.

There are still days when I feel overwhelmed, when the tears flow, and when I question if I’m doing enough as a parent. But I know that Luis and I are doing the best we can. Together, we are stronger. And with our boys by our side, we face each day with courage, knowing that no matter what, we are giving them all the love and support they need to be the best versions of themselves.

Adrián and Guillermo came into our lives to teach us something important—that love isn’t about perfection. It’s about embracing the journey, with all its ups and downs, and appreciating the beautiful moments of growth, connection, and happiness along the way.

So here we are, taking one day at a time, cherishing every milestone, and learning to live in the present. We’re grateful for the lessons our boys have taught us and for the way they continue to inspire us every single day. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. And together, as a family, we will keep moving forward, stronger and more united than ever.

With love and understanding,
Dalisse

Loving Pieces Books

As parents, we all want to see our children thrive socially—to feel comfortable, connected, and confident in their interactions. But for parents of autistic children, this journey often comes with a unique challenge: how do we support their social development without pressuring them to “fit in”?

We’ve been there. As parents of Adrián and Guillermo, we’ve felt the tug between wanting to help them navigate social settings and the fear of pushing them into situations that don’t feel right for them. Over time, we’ve learned that the key isn’t about changing who they are—it’s about creating spaces where they feel safe, accepted, and free to socialize in their own way.

Because here’s the truth: autistic children don’t need to “fit in” to thrive. They need to feel comfortable being themselves. And when we let go of the pressure to conform, we open the door to genuine connections and long-term well-being.

Why Acceptance Matters

When we focus too much on “fixing” or “improving” social skills, we risk sending the message that their natural way of interacting isn’t good enough. This can lead to masking—where children learn to hide their true selves to meet social expectations. While masking might seem helpful in the short term, it can have serious consequences as they grow older, including burnout, anxiety, and a loss of self-identity.

Instead, our goal should be to help them feel comfortable and confident in social settings—not to change how they socialize, but to support them in expressing themselves authentically.

Tools for Comfort, Not Conformity

Here are some strategies that have helped us create a supportive environment for Adrián and Guillermo—one that prioritizes their comfort and celebrates their unique way of socializing:

1. Social Stories for Understanding, Not Pressure

Social stories are a wonderful tool for helping autistic children understand social situations without feeling pressured to perform. These visual narratives explain what to expect in a way that’s clear and predictable, reducing anxiety and helping them feel prepared.

For example, instead of teaching them to “make eye contact because it’s polite,” we use social stories to explain why people might look at each other during conversations—and let them decide what feels comfortable for them.

2. Role-Playing as Exploration, Not Practice

Role-playing can be a great way to explore social interactions in a low-pressure way. Instead of “practicing” to get it “right,” we use role-playing to help Adrián and Guillermo experiment with different ways of communicating and connecting.

The goal isn’t to mimic neurotypical behavior—it’s to help them find their own voice and style.

3. Positive Reinforcement for Effort, Not Outcomes

We celebrate their efforts, not the results. Whether it’s saying “hello” in their own way or simply being present in a social setting, we focus on what feels right for them. This helps build confidence without the pressure to meet external expectations.

4. Playdates with Flexibility, Not Structure

While structured playdates can be helpful, we’ve found that flexibility is key. Instead of planning every moment, we let Adrián and Guillermo take the lead. If they want to play side by side instead of together, that’s okay. If they need a break, that’s okay too.

The goal is to create a space where they feel safe to interact—or not—on their own terms.

5. Safe Spaces for Regulation, Not Withdrawal

Social settings can be overwhelming, and that’s okay. We’ve created safe spaces where our boys can retreat if they feel overstimulated. These aren’t places to hide—they’re spaces to regroup and recharge so they can return to the interaction when they’re ready.

6. Patience and Compassion, Not Expectations

Social development isn’t a race, and there’s no “right” way to do it. We’ve learned to let go of timelines and expectations, focusing instead on their comfort and happiness. Some days, progress looks like a big smile during a conversation. Other days, it’s simply showing up.

Both are worth celebrating.

7. Embracing Their Unique Way of Socializing

One of the most important lessons we’ve learned is to embrace their unique way of connecting with the world. Adrián might express joy by flapping his hands, while Guillermo might connect through music rather than words. These aren’t behaviors to “fix”—they’re beautiful expressions of who they are.

When we let go of the idea that there’s only one “right” way to socialize, we create space for them to shine in their own way.

Journey of Acceptance and Growth

Supporting our children’s social development isn’t about teaching them to “fit in.” It’s about helping them feel comfortable, confident, and accepted for who they are. It’s about creating environments where they can thrive—not by masking their true selves, but by embracing their unique way of being.

As parents, we have the power to show them that they don’t need to change to be loved and accepted. And when we let go of the pressure to conform, we give them the greatest gift of all: the freedom to be themselves.

Remember, you’re not alone in this. Together, we can create a world where our children feel seen, valued, and celebrated—exactly as they are.

With love and understanding,
Dalisse

Loving Pieces Books